Going from Love to Hate is Easy, Going from Hate to Love is Hard.


In a world where pain and suffering rules, it’s hard to stay positive. When things go bad, people tend to let their emotions get the best of them, and it seems like the logical thing to do. I mean we are only human. When you wake up late, and you get up and get out to see that your car has a flat tire, the thing most will do is get angry. So angry that when the problem gets fixed, they let it ruin their entire day. They later will yell at someone, in attempt to take some of their frustration out. Thus causing a chain reaction of bad days. Bad things happen. Sorry guys, it happens to everyone. I’m sure some more than others, but no one goes without at least one bad day. I am absolutely someone who the bad day bug loves to bite. I am also someone that lets one bad thing ruin my whole day. That all changes though. You see, negative things happen to everyone. How we overcome those things, tells what kind of person we are. We can also help others have a good day.

I graduated high school about 3 years ago, and I can remember how hard high school was. The school work wasn’t as bad as some of the kids. I can remember watching some of the “popular” girls making fun of a girl because she didn’t have name brand stuff. They were saying, “Oh look her grandma dresses her!” I sat there, and didn’t say anything. I’m sure that the girls that were saying those mean things had some issues going on in their lives as well. Materialistic things don’t mean a lot, especially when you use those things to make yourself better than others.

You don’t know everyone’s story. You don’t know what their life is like behind closed doors, and you don’t know if those clothes are the only ones they have. Stop being mean to others because you believe they are “beneath you.” Stop looking up to people with nice things and thinking, “Man, I wish that was me.” Anyone can own nice things, and debt is easy to get into.

Nice things don’t make you a nice person. I have noticed in college that there are still some that think they are better than others because of what they have or what their last name is. For those of you that are constantly bullied and looked down on, I have something for you to remember. Being mean and living with materialistic things and values doesn’t help anyone get further in life. Some of the brightest and biggest millionaires came from nothing, and were considered outcasts. Kissing butt will make you known as someone who rides coattails hoping to accomplish something. Those of us who do our own things, will be better off. You know how to work hard, and you know what you want to accomplish. What’s stopping you from being that?

Going from love to hate is easy. We all get mad at our friends, family, or people we barely know. It’s easy to say, “Wow, I hate her.” That goes back to being human again. Going from hate to love is hard. I can’t tell you how hard it is to swallow our pride sometimes. Don’t you just hate it? I can tell you from personal experience, when someone says something hurtful it’s hard to forgive them. They hurt you, and all you want to do is make them feel the pain they put on you. Before doing this ask yourself, “How is that going to help anything?”

Hurting others the way they hurt you doesn’t help anyone. It just causes that chain of bad days to keep on going. Negatives feed off of excuses, lies, and hatred. If you want to make a difference in this world you have to do it the right way. You can’t make a difference by constantly degrading others, just to make yourself feel better. You can’t keep making excuses for your actions, and why your life isn’t the way you wish it would be. Most importantly, you can’t keep hating others for their wrong doings.

Hate is like a load of bricks on your shoulders. The more things and people you hate, the more weight gets put on your shoulders. You are eventually going to hurt yourself more than the person that did you wrong. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

It’s time to start making a positive difference in this world.

Also feel free to email me at breanna.viles@okstate.edu if you ever need someone to talk to. I’m a pretty good listener, and I usually have some great stories and advice. I would love to talk to you!

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